Why you don't achieve your goals
Why you don't achieve your goals
So, here’s the deal…
You have a dream, an ambition a goal. In fact, you have had dreams, ambitions and goals before BUT you’ve never really had the success you wanted.
So what went wrong?
Well the first thing to really think about is how YOU might be hijacking your own success. Think what could be getting in your way?
May I offer some questions for you to consider?
Do you REALLY want what you dream?
We all have dreams, ambitions, desires and hopes but the reality of the things we wish for may be somewhat removed from the ideal which we imagine.
Dreams of wealth and fame are one thing, but the reality of those things may be something different. Unless you ask the question WHAT WOULD BE DIFFERENT when I have achieved my goal and honestly reflect upon the ‘pros’ and ‘cons’ there is a possibility that the “unconscious self” will sabotage ‘conscious action’ so leading to frustration.
Have you REALLY planned for it?
This is more than just having a destination. It is about having a map of the journey. This map needs to highlight the way-points, the pit stops and the comfort breaks.
Recognise that goals change and dreams can evolve and that the journey itself is important.
Have you OPENLY STATED what you want?
Committing to a particular course of action, to a specific journey, in your own mind is one thing. Writing it down, promoting it and telling other people is something else. I will leave you to decide which is the more valuable in supporting you on your journey.
These questions come from the book The Secret to Your Future History and the Course Creating Your Future History.
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Have you PREPARED for SUCCESS
Preparing for success is about creating a vision of the ‘future you’ that is so complete that you can start to anticipate how other things that will change around you – that includes not only your behaviour but also the reactions and behaviours of others. Speak to any own who has won a large amount on a lottery and you will understand how this works.
Are you VALUES and ATTITUDES in line with your dream?
So you may desire something; you may dream about it and you may well start working towards it. If your internal values, personal attitudes and emotional compass are not in-line with what you are ‘becoming’ or ‘will become’ then you are on a path that will not bring happiness.
If you have to sacrifice what you feel makes you in order to achieve a stated goal you are setting up stressful internal conflicts that may be difficult to resolve or reconcile.
Are you FRIGHTENED about living your dream?
In other words does success scare you?
This fear may come beliefs you have about your worthiness to succeed or from the thought that you will be moving away from what you know, what you are comfortable with.
It may sound obvious and a little ‘trite’ but CHANGE is the only CONSTANT in the universe.
Change brings with it uncertainty and doubt. It often requires you to step away from the comfort zone of what you know and who you know. There are many people who prefer to stay trapped within their comfort zone when faced with major, personal, life changing choices.
Thinking about these questions forces you to decide if what you dream is really your dream and helps better prepare you for total commitment to your future success.
The idea of ‘future history’ is best exemplified by the boxer Mohammed Ali who had the habit of predicting his fights, and indeed his winning of them, to the round and even minute.
When asked about this ability he said it was because he has a ‘future history’ in that he had seen the result, the outcome, through creative visualisation.
It was thus motivating and inspiring ‘vision’ which encouraged him to put in the practice and the effort required to develop the skills he needed to achieve what he wanted.
The fight is won or lost far away from witnesses - behind the lines, in the gym, and out there on the road, long before dance under those lights.