Why Relationships Need Boundaries

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Why Relationships Need Boundaries to Thrive

When we fail to set boundaries and hold people accountable, we can feel used and mistreated.  Brené Brown

Every relationship in your life needs boundaries to grow and thrive – whether it’s a boss, coworker, family member, friend, spouse or kids. We all have natural boundaries that are in place. For example, you may choose a handshake over a warm hug or kiss.

Your personal boundaries are important to you and it’s important that those close to you know what those boundaries are. Communication with others is the best way to set and enforce boundaries which may be important to you and to give others a chance to get to know you better.

Here are some good tips which will help you create better boundaries and how it can make your relationships thrive:

Speak from the heart. When establishing and enforcing boundaries with relationships that are already formed, you must be honest or the relationship will dwindle from mistrust. The communication you engage in will help the other person(s) know you better.

Don’t assume how the other person will react. He or she may also have boundaries or expectations of you that may cause discontent. However the person reacts, accept that reaction and discuss how you can move on with the set boundary.

Give as much as you expect in return. If you’re in a relationship with someone who have specific boundaries, respect them and don’t push your own boundaries on someone else.

Expect change. You and those you’re in relationships with are bound to change. Since change is inevitable, it’s also inevitable that you have frequent discussions with those in your life that need to know.

Check in to your relationships. From time to time and especially if something just doesn’t feel right in the relationship, you should check in with the other person and have a general discussion about how you feel about the relationship.

Be sure you let yourself communicate with the other person without fear or anger. As your life and your relationship become more balanced and you begin to know each other better, you’ll know the boundaries are in each of your best interest.

Most of all, enjoy the relationship and find ways to keep in touch and to share what makes you most happy.

Relationships are very important to your lifetime happiness.

Keep them thriving.

When you set relationship boundaries, those relationships are bound to thrive because you’ll learn more and more about the person you’re in the relationship with. You’ll both learn to support each other and be in tune to the others’ needs.

When trying to teach someone a boundary, they learn less from the enforcement of the boundary and more from the way the boundary was established. Bryant H. McGill

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