The Body Language of Relationships
How to make a great impression.
Body Language, or Non-Verbal Communication (NVC), is vitally important when we are trying to make a real connection with others. It doesn't matter whether you're going on a date or seeking to make a good impression at an interview. How you 'hold' yourself and your NVC (body language) will affect how you are perceived and understood by others.
The video is of an interview with Jenny White, Relationship Coach from Strong Heart Awakening on body language in terms of dating and relationships.
I hope you found that interesting and informative.
Key Points - Summary
You've got two ears and one mouth, use them in proportion.
There is a body language component to listening. Leaning forward slightly, with head tilted makes for a relaxed posture and demonstrates attentiveness especially when there is good eye contact. Which doesn't mean you are staring someone out!
Use 'noddys' and 'smileys' - nodding in agreement and smiling often gives support to the speaker. Again don't overdo do it, otherwise, the impression you give will not be the one you intended.
You can also demonstrate listening by asking questions, either for clarification or for more details. Remember that there is a difference between questions showing interest and interrogation.
If you do ask a question, LISTEN to the answer. Avoid asking a question that is really an excuse to segue into something you want to tell the person you are communicating with.
Really following on from above, do not hi-jack the conversation to make it all about you.
The best way to receive attention is to give it!
Open or Receptive Body Language is not simply about not sitting with your arms folded and a detached look on your face. It's about being genuinely relaxed and still within yourself.
Your hidden agenda in any conversation will leak in your body language. So, consider before you meet with someone the reason for your conversation. When meeting friends the agenda is simply to make contact, share the news and catch up with the people you care about. However. when you're dating or being interviewed for that job, your agenda is very different. You want to be liked, accepted, to be found interesting or worthy of the job you are applying for. The inner agenda to needing to convince someone you are 'worthy' can lead to all sorts of overcompensation. Talking too much, being too eager, not really listening, needing to 'sell' yourself.
When I work with salespeople in business, I make the suggestion that their 'inner game' or agenda is NOT to make a sale but to get another meeting (or invitation to one)/ That attitude is just as useful in terms of first dates and interviews. You want to get a second date or a call-back. Trying too hard comes across as desperation and that is not an attractive or interesting trait.
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