How to Change Your Attitude
Your Attitude dictates Your Success
Ability is what you're capable of doing. Motivation determines what you do. Attitude determines how well you do it. - Lou Holtz
How to Change Your Attitude
Life hasn’t gone the way you had hoped.
You are in your same dead-end job, in a career you thought had some promise.
But it didn’t turn out as planned.
You believe it just isn’t on your cards to have that dream life.
However, what could be the problem is not having the right kind of attitude.
You may want to explore changing your attitude and see if that doesn’t result in the changes you need for the better.
The first step is to figure out if your attitude could use some adjusting.
Do you find people trying to avoid you?
Do you find that you get set off by the smallest incidents? You may have just ignored what people have told you about you having a bad attitude.
The next time you are involved in some incident that goes bad, ask yourself this question. Is this something that was my responsibility?
Go through the scenario from the perspective of an outsider observing you. Is there anything you could have done differently that would have changed the result?
Think back to what you said and see if you were the one responsible.
You shouldn’t take the blame for everything.
If you reach within and discover that others were responsible, then hold them to it. Just make sure that you have ruled out yourself as the culprit before doing this. If there are some grey areas, be willing to give in a bit.
When you go through this exercise, you will find you are in the wrong more often than you realized. Once you come to this realization, you can take steps to change yourself.
Don’t focus only on the negative aspects of your life. Accept both the good and bad. Be proud of the good aspects and be willing to work on the negative ones.
You cannot control what happens to you, but you can control your attitude toward what happens to you, and in that, you will be mastering change rather than allowing it to master you. - Brian Tracy
Changing your attitude is a process.
As such, it will take some time to readjust your thinking.
You identify that you are not always right and will try to do what is necessary to avoid those activities again. When you do avoid them in the future, make sure you recognize that as an achievement as this is an important part of the process.
Expect others to recognize your changes when you commit to making them. Your attitude will change for the better just by going through the process described. You will live a happier life, and you will make friends much more easily.
You should also expect your job to change for the better as your management will notice these changes as well.
Consequences of a Bad Attitude
“attitude” – a settled way of thinking or feeling about something.
You may not realize it, but your bad attitude is going to cost you. In some cases, it could hurt others as well.
Are you willing to accept the risk in exchange for keeping your bad attitude going?
What good has it served you and will you try something different?
When people take on a bad attitude, they tend to be apathetic.
They don’t care what others think (or so they say). They tend to withdraw from social interactions and don’t live as well as they could. Below we look at some of the consequences of a bad attitude.
Your general outlook on life is going to be poor.
You think the world is against you, and you do everything in your power to avoid others or avoid interacting with others. You lose your friends, and you spend limited time with your family.
If you have a bad attitude, you will likely find yourself stressed out more than you should be. This stress is unhealthy and can prevent your body from fending off disease and so your bad attitude could cause disease.
You probably won’t be nice to other people. You end up saying the wrong things and hurting them. You may find yourself insulting others when you have a bad attitude. You will be irritated by everything they say and everyone you encounter.
Bad attitudes don’t work well in your work environment. It is something that could make you lose your job. What is worse about this situation is that you won’t realize why you lost your job, or you won’t accept that it was because of your bad attitude. Employers want people who look for solutions, and negative thinking prevents that from happening. In fact, you will look for reasons why everything won’t work.
A bad attitude usually makes a bad situation worse. If you find yourself in a legal situation, taking a bad attitude against law enforcement could give them reasons to make it difficult for you. When you are cooperative and have a good attitude, they will try to work with you to lessen the impact and reduce the charges. They may even let you go.
The consequences described here are not exhaustive.
You can probably come up with more, but this should be enough to show you that you have a lot to lose by taking on a bad attitude.
There is a reason for the old saying about how you catch more flies - with honey.
Your living is determined not so much by what life brings to you as by the attitude you bring to life; not so much by what happens to you as by the way your mind looks at what happens. Khalil Gibran
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