Are You failing to take ownership of your life?
It sometimes seems to me that people fail to take ownership of their own lives and in doing so give their personal power away. The thoughts In this post may offend some, but causing offence is not my aim. Somebody who is living in a slum or who was caught up in an abusive relationship would be very incredulous. In fact, a lot of them would be downright insulted. They could say, “How dare you imply that I somehow own this life, that I chose this life? I didn’t choose to get slapped around. I didn’t choose to get born to a drug-addicted mother. I didn’t choose to live in a slum. How dare you! I’m a victim here. I am life’s victim. This is why I make bad choices. This is why my health is this way. This is why I’m surrounded by bad people. How dare you! Nobody wants to choose this. Get off your high horse. Who do you think you are?” and on and on it goes. However, here’s the problem. When that is your default response to any kind of uplifting and empowering message regarding your ownership of your life and your destiny through your choices, what do you end up achieving? You end up stuck. You end up making the same kind of decisions over and over again because, at the back of your head, change is not possible. It’s not possible because you don’t own your life. You’re just a piece of plastic drifting on this storm-tossed ocean called “your life.” You were just born into it. You are at the mercy of people and situations beyond your control. Your life is not one of your makings. Your decisions don’t count for much regardless of how much you aspire for the better things in life. Nothing will seem to happen because one disappointment leads to another. Pretty discouraging, right? In fact, this is pretty downright depressing. Unfortunately, this is the reality people choose because they refuse to take ownership of whatever power they have in their lives. Your life, whether you admit it or not and whether you accept it or not, is the result of what you are willing to put up with. Don’t get me wrong. If you were born to a drug-addicted mother, you obviously did not have a choice about that. You obviously did not have a choice when your father abandoned your family or slapped you around when you were little. You obviously didn’t choose to get beaten up by the schoolyard bully over and over again. You did not choose the abuse you suffered. All these traumas are not consciously chosen by people. So. let’s get that out of the way. This is NOT about self-blaming. However, we can choose how we respond to these things. You don’t have to stay there. You can work. You can take a low-paying job and scale up from there. You can choose to get educated. You can choose to show up in school on time, do the necessary work, aim to get good grades, hang out with the right people, and then move on. I’m not saying it’s easy but the decisions to a better life are there. You just have to follow those decisions. There’s always a decision to be somewhere and that’s why our lives are a reflection of our decisions. Our decisions, on the other hand, are reflections of our mindset. If you are sick and tired of feeling like you’re life’s victim, stop being a victim by saying,
“I am responsible for how I respond to life. I’m going to start making different decisions. I’m going to stick to those decisions. I’m going to commit myself to a different outcome.”
None of this is easy especially if you’re born with very little advantages and resources. But it can be done! Whilst there may be reasons why life is as it is at the moment. these reasons are not excuses for taking action. The moment you realise that you're not where you want to be is the moment of power. You can either seek the support, the advice, the information you need to change things OR You can continue arguing for your own limitations. It all begins with taking ownership of your complete being. This doesn’t just include your conscious mind. This also includes every aspect of your mind including your subconscious. https://youtu.be/tqeGlvIfOvM You don't have to continue living in the shadow of your past! Alan /|\ You may also like to read this article: The Power of Now Check Out This Page Too : Create Your Future History